The Most Important Conversation You Will Ever Have
“You create your own universe as you go along.”
Over the last twenty years, I have observed thousands of people from all walks of life answer questions that guide them to more fulfilling and joyful professional lives. The work has brought me to the conclusion that until we examine our lives we often live someone else’s life, someone else’s conversation.
Years ago, I heard Michael Beckwith the founder of Agape and one of the stars in “The Secret” say,
“The single most important conversation you are having is the one you are having with yourself. Quite simply, if you want to improve the quality of your life, improve the quality of the conversation.”
Our interior words determine the reality and shape of the world around us. No matter what happened before, as adults we have the choice to pursue a journey out of any form of victimhood or martyrdom. One of my primary roles in life is help others see this and become better writers.
Why am I qualified? I lead a wonderful life today. I get to engage with thousands of people in improving their lives. I get to write and publish books. I get to be surrounded by love in its richest form. I get to spend this past week in the Caribbean with my toes in talcum powder sand. I know that I earned my way to happiness and health. I say that I “get” to do these things because of the gratitude from leading a joyful life.
I grew up as the adopted son of a violent and angry man, a pillar in the community who abused and violated his children. He used words to cut me down to size and end the “competition.” Through a combination of luck, hard work and musical talent I escaped to Los Angeles. But, my father’s words came along for the ride and for many years I struggled with an inner dialogue that was wildly at odds with my hopes and aspirations. Fortunately, my wounds distilled into an almost super human need to find redemption, to have a life that mattered. In that pursuit, therapy played a big role but ultimately, true joy and health required writing a new internal script. From my vantage point, until we do this, we usually tell the same story over and over again. In other words, more of the same.
Journaling led to Socratic questions and extensive use of The Law of Attraction. A new script emerged and from that positive and affirmative place, I lead the life I always wanted to have. Today, we advocate a specific form of The Law of Attraction, one that defines action rather than hope and wishes. You can very good examples of this in Michael Losier’s The Law of Attraction. To get a copy of his book, click here.
In the metaphysical world, we run into these rather floral and over-the-top affirmations and while I want everyone to be bright beams of light shining joy through the universe, I am much more inclined to practice one of the four success traits defined by the behavioral scientist Robert Maurer. He indicates that, “Successful people have an inner voice that when frightened, automatically reassures us that it is OK to be human, OK to want what we want, OK to make mistakes and OK to ask for help.”
What I want for all of my readers is this:
To make a great living doing what you love.
To have an inner and outer conversation that expresses love for you and everyone around you.
Clear blue water and talcum powder sand under your feet.
Happy New Year!
THE INSPIRED WORK PROGRAM – JANUARY 16 & 17
For the vast majority of us, work is the biggest relationship that we have.
We spend most of our hours getting ready for, driving to, being at, coming home and recovering from work.
Inspired Work’s entire purpose is to improve our relationship with work and hence, our entire lives.
- We serve the father who is backed into a corner with work that he doesn’t like; the father who does it because he believes he has no option except to keep showing up. We serve the father who finds that life purpose and happiness in one weekend and the children? He ends up becoming their greatest role model.
- We serve that brilliant young man who thinks he is stuck as a “gopher.” Three months after the program, he gets his first film deal. Today, he has two gophers.
- We serve the hard charging career professional who “has it all” except meaning and purpose. She finds the life she was meant to have and has been living it ever since.
- We serve the loyal employee who did everything by the book as the world changed around her, who realizes in just 48 hours, she has what it takes. She takes off. Now, she changes the world.
- We serve the powerhouses who are always looking for a competitive edge and a richer, more satisfying life; the ones who come in the door to work on their goals and end up married and with children. We call it irrevocable happiness.
- We serve the workers who have been on the market looking for “anything” only to realize that when they commit to their destiny, it appears.
- We serve the career climber who realizes she will never be happy as long as she has to follow orders. She walks out of the room as a new business owner.
- We serve the executive who’s been boxed into a corner until it dawns on him that a solution was always there. So, everyone wins.
- We serve the Baby Boomer who just retired and wants a fresh and exciting new life. This is the one who walks in with “option paralysis” and emerges a community leader.
- We serve the organizations that want a fully engaged workforce, where everyone is accountable for involvement, enthusiasm and collective support.
- We serve the unhappy attorney who wanted to be a rocket scientist and ends up…a rocket scientist.
- We serve that worker who got laid off and found his life’s work.
- We serve the most discerning fans of human potential.
We want to serve you.
Join us for The Inspired Work Program at the beautiful Luxe Summit Hotel (Los Angeles) on January 16 & 17.
The program is limited to 20 participants.
For more information, click here.
Get started by calling (310) 277-4850.